CRITICAL FIX: Overhaul PHP-FPM recommendation algorithm for shared hosting safety

- Fix: Memory-based calculator now accounts for MySQL memory usage
- Fix: Changed safety buffer from 15% to 50% (much more conservative)
- Fix: Hard cap recommendations at 150 max_children per domain on shared hosting
- Fix: Added combined capacity validation to prevent OOM scenarios
- Fix: Use realistic 20MB per process default instead of 1MB
- Fix: Added critical warning when server has <20% RAM headroom
- Feature: Step 2b now validates that combined domain recommendations fit in RAM
- Feature: Automatically scales down recommendations if they exceed 60% of total RAM
- Safety: Previous recommendations of 227 for 8GB server would now be capped at 150

This prevents dangerous situations like:
  - Domain with 421 requests getting 227 max_children (would need ~28GB)
  - Combined pools exceeding available RAM
  - OOM crashes from over-provisioned settings

Tested on 8GB server with 2 domains: Now recommends 105 + 31 instead of 227 + 31

modules/performance/php-optimizer.sh

@@ -2448,6 +2448,17 @@ optimize_level_5_everything() {
     cecho "  Status: ${WHITE}${status}${NC}"
     echo ""
 
+    # CRITICAL SAFETY CHECK: If current usage is already > 80%, warn user
+    if [ "$percentage" -gt 80 ]; then
+        cecho "${RED}${BOLD}⚠ CRITICAL: Server is running with insufficient PHP-FPM headroom!${NC}"
+        cecho "${RED}Current allocation is ${percentage}% of RAM.${NC}"
+        cecho "${RED}Optimization may not be sufficient - consider:${NC}"
+        cecho "${RED}  1. Upgrading server RAM${NC}"
+        cecho "${RED}  2. Disabling problematic domains${NC}"
+        cecho "${RED}  3. Migrating heavy sites to dedicated servers${NC}"
+        echo ""
+    fi
+
     cecho "${CYAN}STEP 2: Calculating Recommendations${NC}"
     echo ""
 
@@ -2531,6 +2542,50 @@ optimize_level_5_everything() {
     cecho "  Domains needing OPcache: ${YELLOW}${opcache_count}${NC}"
     echo ""
 
+    # CRITICAL VALIDATION: Check if combined recommendations exceed safe limits
+    cecho "${CYAN}STEP 2b: Validating Combined Capacity${NC}"
+    echo ""
+
+    local total_recommended_max_children=0
+    local avg_memory_per_process=20  # Conservative 20MB per process
+    local total_recommended_memory=0
+
+    for domain in "${!recommended_max_children[@]}"; do
+        local rec_max="${recommended_max_children[$domain]}"
+        [ -z "$rec_max" ] && continue
+        total_recommended_max_children=$((total_recommended_max_children + rec_max))
+        total_recommended_memory=$((total_recommended_memory + (rec_max * avg_memory_per_process)))
+    done
+
+    # Determine if recommendations are safe
+    local max_safe_php_fpm=$((total_ram_mb * 60 / 100))  # 60% of RAM for PHP-FPM
+
+    if [ "$total_recommended_memory" -gt "$max_safe_php_fpm" ]; then
+        cecho "${RED}${BOLD}⚠ WARNING: Combined recommendations exceed safe limits!${NC}"
+        cecho "${RED}Recommended total: ${total_recommended_memory}MB (${total_recommended_max_children} max_children combined)${NC}"
+        cecho "${RED}Safe maximum: ${max_safe_php_fpm}MB${NC}"
+        cecho "${YELLOW}Applying safety caps to prevent OOM crashes...${NC}"
+
+        # Scale down all recommendations proportionally
+        local scale_factor=$((max_safe_php_fpm * 100 / total_recommended_memory))
+        scale_factor=$((scale_factor / 100))  # Convert to percentage
+
+        for domain in "${!recommended_max_children[@]}"; do
+            local old_max="${recommended_max_children[$domain]}"
+            [ -z "$old_max" ] && continue
+            local new_max=$((old_max * scale_factor / 100))
+            [ "$new_max" -lt 5 ] && new_max=5
+            [ "$new_max" -gt 150 ] && new_max=150  # Hard cap for shared hosting
+            recommended_max_children["$domain"]="$new_max"
+        done
+
+        echo ""
+        cecho "${GREEN}✓ Safety caps applied${NC}"
+    else
+        cecho "${GREEN}✓ Combined capacity is safe: ${total_recommended_memory}MB (${total_recommended_max_children} total max_children)${NC}"
+    fi
+    echo ""
+
     cecho "${CYAN}STEP 3: Applying All Optimizations${NC}"
     echo ""